Some time ago, a group photo of Zhou Huajian, 63, and his wife of the same age was posted online.
In the photo, Zhou Huajian's elegant demeanor remains the same, while his wife, Kang Zilan, has white hair, so that many people say that she and Zhou Huajian are not like husband and wife, but rather like mother and son.
This is not the first time Conzilan has encountered negative reviews. As early as 20 years ago, she was rejected by many fans, thinking that she was not worthy of Zhou Huajian, and someone even called to urge her to divorce.
In fact, after 38 years of marriage, Zhou Huajian never thought of separating from Kang Cuilan.
From a poor boy to a popular "King Killer", many people may not know that without Kangzilan, there would be no Zhou Huajian today.
In 1960, Zhou Huajian was born into a working family in Hong Kong with three brothers and a sister.
He has loved music since he was a child, but his family is not well-off and there is no extra money to support him to play music. Zhou Huajian didn't have his first guitar until he was in junior high school.
Because he was so obsessed with playing music, Zhou Huajian made a mess of his studies and was held back for a time. Later, with the encouragement of his sister, he decided to go to Taiwan to take the joint exam.
Before leaving, Zhou Huajian cut off the long nails left for playing guitar to show his determination to "study hard".
However, this determination did not last long. The atmosphere on the Taipei campus was so relaxed that students were free to release their nature. At that time, Zhou Huajian often sang a guitar on the floor in the corner of the campus, singing a song and looking up, and he was often surrounded by fans.
Because of his outstanding ability, he was introduced by his brother to sing at the Shilin Folk songs Western Restaurant in Taipei, where Qi Yu, Pan Yueyun and Xin Xiaoqi all sang.
When he first met his wife, Kang Cuilan, Zhou Huajian had been a resident singer for a while and was slightly famous in the circle.
The two got acquainted with each other through a party.
They were born on the same day in the same year, and this encounter may have been predestined from the very beginning.
Kangzilan, from the United States, was basically Chinese at the party that day, and everyone chatted in Chinese, which made her look out of place and a little lonely.
Zhou Huajian happened to be good at English, so he accosted him and started talking to Kangzilan. When he can meet someone who communicates with him in his mother tongue in a foreign country, Kangzilan immediately has a crush on Zhou Huajian.
At the end of the party, Zhou Huajian enthusiastically sent Kangzilan home. When he was almost home, Zhou Huajian revealed his identity as a singer to Kang Zilan and invited her to listen to him sing in the restaurant when she was free.
Before that, Zhou Huajian actually invited a lot of friends to listen to him sing. These friends either promised not to show up, or walked through the formalities and left in a hurry.
But Kangzilan is different.
After receiving Zhou Huajian's invitation, Kang Zilan not only went, but also went for many days. Zhou Huajian sang on the stage and she listened quietly off the stage. Every time Zhou Huajian sang a song, she would be the first to stand up and applaud. This greatly moved Zhou Huajian.
At that time, Zhou Huajian had been singing for some time. Because of his excellent singing skills, the boss appreciated him very much, and many guests came specially to listen to him sing. But this did not make Zhou Huajian feel satisfied, but made him a little confused, because his dream is to become a real singer.
Before that, he had joined a record company, which promised to help him release a solo album, but the company closed down before the album was released, which made Zhou Huajian very frustrated.
Originally had the opportunity to sing on the big stage, but now can only "cats in the corner" to make a living, I do not know when it will end. At the same time, the long-term high-intensity singing work also made Zhou Huajian's tonsils inflamed and lost his voice for a time.
Under these circumstances, Zhou Huajian began to think about the way to go. At that time, he wanted to be a music producer, but there was no school in Taiwan that specializes in music production. If he wanted to learn, he had to find his own way and solve the problem of living expenses. He was very upset by all kinds of worries.
When he didn't know what to do, Zhou Huajian told Kangzilan about his predicament and ideas. Unexpectedly, Kangzilan said simply without the slightest hesitation: stick to it!
Kangzilan's father is a theater worker, and Kangzilan clearly remembers that many of her father's students washed dishes during the day and went to guest roles at night. She knew that art was like this, although it was very hard and tiring, but she had to stick to it.
You have to go straight before you can see the light.
This encouragement gave Zhou Huajian a lot of confidence, and he immediately cleaned up his mood and continued to sing while looking for opportunities.
A year later, Zhou Huajian's opportunity came.
That year, Zhou Huajian met a man with glasses and a beard who came to the restaurant to play mahjong every now and then. His mouth was full of music. When he talked about the rise, he couldn't help but raise his voice and get excited.
On one occasion, when the man was playing mahjong, Zhou Huajian came on stage to sing. He just heard a few words. The man was not calm at once. He immediately put down his mahjong and came to Zhou Huajian and asked Zhou Huajian--
Are you interested in joining Rolling Stones?
The man's name was Li Zongsheng, who was record director at Rolling Stone at that time.
The opportunity was at hand, but Zhou Huajian hesitated for a long time, because according to Li Zongsheng's arrangement, he joined Rolling Stone not as a singer, but as a "music assistant." To put it bluntly, the music assistant is a handyman who has to do everything and may not be able to do what he wants to do.
As a result, Zhou Huajian began to make difficulties again.
If you want to get into the Rolling Stones, you have to start from the bottom, and at the same time, you have to drop out and give up your degree. In this regard, the Zhou parents of course do not agree, do not study well, to be some unreliable music assistant, it is ridiculous.
When all kinds of pressure came, it was Kang Zilan who stood up and supported Zhou Huajian.
"my father is also an art worker," Kangzilan told him. "A lot of people think of him as an incredible choice, but he's doing a great job in this business, and you can't give up what you love."
Now that you have recognized it and chosen it, do it, regardless of what others say.
In this way, Zhou Huajian entered the Rolling Stone. Rolling Stone's salary is very low, only NT $5000 a month, and it's hard to pay the rent, so he works as a production assistant at Rolling Stone during the day and continues to sing in the restaurant at night.
At that time, Zhou Huajian and Kang Cuilan had been dating for a while and were about to enter marriage. Before getting married, Zhou Huajian took Kang Cuilan back to Hong Kong to meet his parents, and then Zhou Huajian proposed to Kang Cuilan at the seaside in Hong Kong.
At this time, Zhou Huajian achieved nothing, his income was small, and his future was uncertain, but Kang Zilan gave him an affirmative answer.
Due to the lack of money, Zhou Huajian was still singing in the restaurant the night before he got married.
In the rental house, Zhou Huajian and Kang Cuilan got married. Zhou Huajian also ushered in a watershed in his life since then.
After marriage, Kang Cuilan helped Zhou Huajian manage his life, allowing him to focus on music.
Soon, a powerful singer in the Chinese music world will be born.
At that time, most of the living expenses were borne by Kangzilan, and Zhou Huajian seemed to be "eating a soft meal", which put a lot of pressure on him.
He often looks in the mirror and asks himself, what do you want? And then look in the mirror and ask yourself--make good music, keep going.
But even he didn't believe these answers because it was too difficult.
But Kangzilan Xin. Kangzilan said to him very seriously, "that's it. Don't think about anything else. I'm going to see you do this."
Finally, half a year after entering Rolling Stone, with the help of Qi Yu, Zhou Huajian began to sing advertising songs, and then Lady Luck favored Zhou Huajian, and his ad song "the Direction of the Heart" for Renault became an unexpected hit.
With the heat, the company decided to strike while the iron was hot and asked Li Zongsheng to produce a solo album for Zhou Huajian.
In 1987, Zhou Huajian was born in Rolling Stone's first album, the Direction of the Heart. Once the album was released, sales reached 200000. After that, Lien Chan won a series of victories, and the new album "the truest Dream" sold 1.2 million yuan in Asia, winning the Malaysian Gold album Award. The original "Love in this City" won the Golden Song Award.
In less than three years, Zhou Huajian succeeded, from a fool to a heavenly king.
But after becoming popular, there is a strong sense of insecurity. During that time, Zhou Huajian frequently had nightmares in which he was either chased and beaten or became a fugitive and was arrested by the police. After getting rid of inferiority, confusion and depression, he fell into new pressure.
I succeeded, but I began to feel uneasy. Others could not understand Zhou Huajian's state, but Kang Zilan understood him.
Kang Zilan told Zhou Huajian that when everything comes true, you are afraid that it will be lost, that it will be fake, that it will be short, and that waking up will be just a dream, because it is so good that you think it is fake.
Under the guidance of Kang Zilan, Zhou Huajian slowly calmed down, he calmed down his emotions and accepted his success.
After that, his career progressed steadily, "Let me rejoice and worry", "Flowers" and "Sunny Tonight". The album became more and more popular one by one, and Zhou Huajian naturally became one of the most important singers in Taiwan's music scene.
Fans call him "the four Heavenly Kings of Taiwan" along with Wang Jie, Tong Ange and Qi Qin, echoing the "four Heavenly Kings of Hong Kong".
When Zhou Huajian's career was in full swing, Kangzilan continued to support him. In order to make Zhou Huajian have no worries, Kangzilan took on the responsibility of taking care of the family.
In 1990, when the eldest son, Zhou Houan, was born, Zhou Huajian wrote "Kiss my Baby", another big fire.
In 1994, the youngest daughter Zhou Houen was born, and Zhou Huajian wrote "daughter's Song" as a gift for her daughter.
With both children and a smooth career, Zhou Huajian's life went up all the way, but at this time he did not know that his wife's physical condition had quietly appeared problems.
As Zhou Huajian is away from home for a long time, the family and children are taken care of by Kangzilan alone. Whenever the child gets sick, Kangzilan will have a strong sense of helplessness.
When she was pregnant with her daughter, Kang Zilan inadvertently gave birth prematurely, and Zhou Huajian was not accompanied in time because of her busy work, which made her have the tendency of postpartum depression. Since then, things have been getting worse, Kangzilan's mood is getting worse and worse, and his hair begins to fall out.
At the same time, Zhou Huajian also produced a lot of bad rumors, some media claimed that Zhou Huajian "had an affair."
Knowing this rumor, Zhou Huajian immediately called Kangzilan to explain that Kangzilan fully believed in Zhou Huajian, but could not stand the rumors appearing again and again.
As the news became more and more true, Zhou Huajian became busier and busier, and Kang Zilan felt more and more like a "superfluous" existence in Zhou Huajian's life.
One fan called Kangzilan directly and asked her bluntly, when will she divorce Zhou Huajian?
After living in poverty, bearing the pressure of life and enduring the loneliness of her husband's absence, she got the sentence "when is the divorce?" even if Zhou Huajian didn't ask her, she was still unable to resist.
Kangzilan was in great pain and broke up with Zhou Huajian.
It was not until then that Zhou Huajian realized that he had neglected to take care of his family all these years. At the beginning, it was his wife who unconditionally supported and helped him to embark on the path of music, but now it is time for him to take care of his wife and assume family responsibilities.
So at the peak of his career, Zhou Huajian put off his job and returned to his family to help Kangzilan treat depression. Accompanied by Zhou Huajian, Kang Zilan gradually recovered, and Zhou Huajian's approach also shut up those bad media.
In fact, when Zhou Huajian first made his debut, he was told not to tell the truth about his marital status. Anyway, Kang Zilan is an outsider and can completely hide the marriage, so that he can attract more fans, but Zhou Huajian refused.
In his view, concealing marriage and feelings is a great disrespect for Kangzilan. Some people laugh at him for being too "honest", while others tease him that he is still so "devoted" at his age, but only Zhou Huajian knows that he and Kang Zilan are both lovers and bosom friends.
Forty years of music, for Zhou Huajian, there are too many stories in these forty years, but each of them is inseparable from Kangzilan.
Instead of saying that Zhou Huajian did not abandon Kangzilan after his success, it would be better to say that without Kangzilan, there would be no Zhou Huajian today.
From another point of view, is it not a kind of extreme romance that the two people are "disharmonious" in the same frame? Article / essay Seven
● reference material
[1] Luyu has an appointment, issue 20060330
[2] Kanban characters, issue 20110515
[3] Global Times Entertainment Review: exclusive dialogue | well-known singer and musician Zhou Huajian: making music cannot be "for popularity"
